You know, I've noticed that foreign guys (FG) are more aggressive when they are chasing after a girl. He'll often call and sms her, and ask her out especially on weekends. He gets her little things and say "Just saw that and thought about you...". Whenever he's going out to a party or gonna hang out with friends, he thinks "Hmm, I wonder if she'll be interested in joining?" and proceeds to ask her along, and won't take no for an answer, even if it means he'll have to drive to the other end of the state just to pick her up.
For her birthday or Valentine's Day, he does something sweet and special for her to make it a memorable day. He gives her little compliments like "You look really nice today" to brighten up her day. He'll sneak out of class to accompany her when she's sitting all by herself.
With FGs, you can almost always tell when he likes you. On the other hand, local guys (LG) chase after a girl in such a lowkey way that sometimes the girl is left wondering "Is he into me? Or is he just treating me like a friend? Is he interested in taking our friendship further?". Furtive looks are the most lowkey tactic. I mean, it's okay if a girl does it, but come on guys, have some balls and just approach her la...(I'm old fashioned that way; guys should approach the girl first)
LG: *furtive look* OMG she's looking here!!! *look away*
Girl: Was he just looking at me??? OMG, does he like me *swoon*??? Hmm, but it was just a look, maybe I'm thinking too much.
And if LG doesn't ever approach her, this will probably go on till either
a) the girl losses interest in LG
b) they graduate and never see one another again OR
c) she gets herself another boyfriend *knife through LG's heart*
Either way, LG doesn't get the girl.
I'm not trying to say that all LGs are like that (some can be really sweet and romantic too), or that FGs are better than LGs...but it would be nice if more LGs were more straight forward when they are going after a girl. Seriously, girls would really appreciate it....I know I would.
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12 comments:
mm...so u've experienced it? hahaa...anyway, abt LC - i truly agree! no idea abt FG tho' nvr had one b4 :(
I do agree with you about both local and foreign guys. Perhaps it got a lot to do with the culture they are brought up with.
Generally, Asians are rather shy (not all) when it comes to approaching the opposite. From my observation and experience, somehow the local guys behave a little like "us - girls", in the sense that, they try to throw hints that they like you but never dare to tell you. Hey guys, we girls can't read your mind either.
This likely because that guy are afraid of being rejected OR probably that guy knows that you already have a boyfriend and don't think it's a right thing to do OR probably the guy is attached? But there are some who just couldn't bother if you're taken or not, he just want to try his chance. To some, as long as you're not married, means you're still available.
grace: gracie!!! u found my bloggie!!! haha, ya, i've experienced it before...damn different wei...if only LGs were braver, who knows how many bf i'll have by now...WAKAKA *ham sup laugh*
celine: if they forever scared of rejection, then forever also don't have gf la...just wait for their parents to arrange marriage for them, hahaha....
i actually don't mind if the guy comes after me even though i already have a bf, but i seriously am against it if the guy is already taken also. i believe in fidelity in a relationship.
As a guy, I'd say that we're typically afraid of rejection. That explains why we're so lowkey in the pursuit. Perhaps FGs' culture is different, they treat relationships as a very casual thing. Yet I would say not all LGs may be that silent about things like these.
But then again, straightforward or not, rejection still happens. I've been as straightforward as possible - but it was like running into a wall. Not a pleasant experience.
well, rejection is nothing to be afraid of, there's nothing wrong or to be embarrassed of. You're just not the type she wants. So move on to the next one~ :)
I guess it's about fear? People tend to avoid the things they fear. And, like Celine said, it's true that we are indeed affected by our environment. If I was brought up in a different situation, I'd be a different person that who I am now.
Oh, by the way, from what I've experienced, about that last sentence in the post:"Seriously, girls would really appreciate it....I know I would." I find that last phrase rather... hard to believe... heheh...
tze lun: not saying all LGs are like dat, but most of them are...n i dun think FGs treat relationships casually, mayb they just dare 2 take a chance
phil: i couldn't agree with u more...sigh, if only more guys think like u do..
person-whose-chinese-name-i-can't-read: wat is so hard to believe bout it??? who likes 2 be kept wondering all de time? saves so much time also if de guy were more straight forward...
What i meant isn't in general, i meant you in specific. But that doesn't matter anyway... so don't take it so hard. i know you won't anyway =)
btw, try google's translator to translate my chinese-name-you-can't-read to english, you'll know who it is *hint hint*
I think 天鹰战机 have some point here. Although we girls may say that we appreciate it, but the truth is, we only want to hear from it someone we are also attracted to.
So some guys may think it's not worth being straight forward knowing chances of being rejected is high. For those who are not afraid of facing rejection, I really have to respect them.
actually, even if i don't like the guy romantically, i still would prefer it if he was straight forward. i would have a higher appreciation for someone who has the courage to come out and state his true feelings.
And who knows, you may think that the chances of rejection is high, but it might just be that the girl is just playing hard to get... ;)
The memory of a rejection is still fresh in my mind. Haha. My thoughts are likely to be... less rational.
Everyone got different opinion. And there is different ways to speak up depend on the girl is fall on which category. And ho...
do u read the july issue of MYC. girl can make the 1st move what. then only sell high also can. Or maybe you are just same as LG?
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